New Years Resolution….. Lose one “Dead Weight” Friend

The New Year is upon us! 52 weeks ONLY really is this 8,760 hours.. WOW.. put it into hours and one year seems as it will blow by like the desert wind across the Polo Fields of Coachella Valley. Bottom line is time is a finite resource. As the Buddah said “You only think you have time”

Well its the truth. And the truth is, if you are like most people, or even maybe extraordinary people, you have one friend in your life whom adds exactly ZERO value to your existence. If this is the case, that friend is causing you lose the finite resource aforementioned….. TIME. Time is being wasted on somebody that adds nothing to your life. 

Make this year the year you get rid of time wasting habits and time wasting people. Friends that add no value to your life, that suck your time and energy from you.. Leaving you tired and drained.  Be rid of that person and use your time for something amazing. 

5 things out of 37, I feel you will regret later in life

I sit here and write from the couch of an amazing hotel lobby bar. Somewhere in Napa, nestled between vineyards and golden hills, I am writing. On the table in front of me sits a half eaten hummus plate and a beautiful crystal mug of Home made hot apple cider. I wonder if everybody else around me is taking note on how beautiful this scene is? Are they aware of the smooth jazz Christmas music that is playing, sounding as though a piano player were right behind them.

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I am not sure.

I have just finished reading another bloggers post on “37 Things You will Regret When You Are Old” Many points made in the article have hit home.

I will speak of 5 things that really strike a chord in my soul.

1. Never Finishing What we Started- Habits of Punctuality, order, and diligence get us to where we want to be when we start. Find these habits, cultivate them with a strong will and thrive.. People remember 2 things about a story, The beginning and the End. That is it! So whatever you have to do to finish, do it!

2. Not Stopping enough to appreciate the moment- We have a finite amount of time on this planet. It is beautiful. Take a moment and enjoy it.

3. Staying in a Bad Relationship- If you don’t like it leave!! There are soooo many people out there to discover and explore, to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy, well, you are simply choosing to be an unhappy person, I’m sure you will regret that when you are an old bag of dust.

4. Not Volunteering enough- Old people wish they had made a difference in the world. Leaving the world a better place than which you found it, should be on the goal sheet of everyone of us! Give more Get more!! #gogiver

5. NOT BEING GRATEFUL SOONER- Everyday I wake up and say, Thank You. Every night I go to bed saying THANK YOU!!! I practice gratitude everyday and night. There is no better therapy, NONE, than the practice of gratitude! Being grateful for what you have gives the universe, or God, whatever your thing is, no choice but to give you more to be grateful for!! So practice being grateful and reap the benefits!

Inspiration can be found anywhere, look for it every day and be happy.

I will now go back to my hot cider and my beautiful music. I will give thanks for this moment tonight before I go to bed. I am a lucky guy.

Nice to meet you!!! You have some food in your teeth.

How many times have you met somebody at a social gathering and ran into the most awkward of situations like “Food in the Teeth”? Other than running into a one-night stand within 1 week of the encounter at an event full of clients and business associates, there are very few more awkward situations.

 

What do you do? What do you say? Do you stare at the teeth? Do you keep direct eye contact as to not be rude, when they finally figure out they have had food in their teeth the whole time while at this function? They will hate you and everybody else that they spoke with that did not bring attention to the defect. 

HOW TO APPROACH:       It is my firm opinion that when encountered with “Food in the Teeth” or FITT for short, your best way to handle the situation is with dead set honesty. “Oh nice to meet you, there is something in your teeth” or “Wow, heard alot about you, but never heard about all the food in your teeth, what is that salad? was it good? it looks amazing!” or better yet “Great to meet you, my wife has told me so much about your work with the homeless, are you saving that piece of food in your teeth for your next food drive?” 

All these option are 100% appropriate when running into the ever awkward FITT. So when you encounter FITT at your holiday business function or your next client appreciation dinner, be direct, be forward. The person will thank you for it profusely.

Just think! if you don’t tell them, how many meet and greets will they have to go through with FITT.